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Porn has emerged into the mainstream due to advances in communications, 24/7 cellphone access and digital libraries that cater to every taste. Digital communication enables anyone–even children–to view porn on demand. Unfortunately, brown paper wrappers, sketchy porn theaters and adult video arcades no longer have the power to limit widespread porn access, and the $97-billion-dollar industry flourishes on smartphones, tablets, virtual reality headsets and larger-than-life screens with Surround Sound speakers. The false expectations and easy accessibility of porn increasingly destroy normal sexual relationships by insulating viewers from reality and fostering impossible performance standards. Many viewers become addicted to “virtual sex” and lose interest in normal relationships.

Clinical Findings on the Effects of Pornography

Porn has become the latest designer drug that each viewer can customize to his or her own taste. Watching porn often replaces normal sexual activities in much the same way that gaming prevents people from getting essential exercise, outdoor play and social interaction. This kind of solitary activity fosters behavior that mimics drug addiction–people become shifty, secretive and cool to normal relationship activities. Everyone indulges in escapist behavior occasionally, but porn can become utterly addictive as porno lovers gaze increasingly deeper into the abyss.

how-porn-destroys-relationships-and-intimacy-2Some viewers advance into fetishes, violence and illegal porn subjects–such as child porn–and viewing this material is far from harmless. Porn can affect students, housewives, professionals, self-employed, people who work from home and captains of industry with equal fervor. Addictive porn viewing damages relationships, limits working hours and dominates free time. A wide body of clinical evidence has emerged that chronicles some of the dangers of porn addiction. One clinical study found the following effects that resulted directly from watching porn: [1]

  • Married men who watch porn excessively express reduced satisfaction with conjugal relations.
  • Both spouses tend to view watching pornography as forms of infidelity.
  • Porn is highly addictive, and scientists are beginning to map the biological and psychological effects of addictive porn.
  • Regular viewers–just as drug addicts need stronger doses–opt for increasingly abnormal sexual scenes as they become acclimatized.
  • Watching porn correlates with greater sexual permissiveness, out-of-wedlock pregnancies and contraction of STDs.
  • Many men–and some women–tend to view sexual partners as sex objects instead of as lovers and individuals.

Increased Sexual Aggression Comes from Viewing False Sexual Situations

help5Specifically, the studies uncovered the following insights:

  • Exposure to porn increases sexual aggression including rape, violence and abnormal practices.
  • Porn viewing accounts for a 20 percent decrease in intimacy.
  • 31 percent of viewers believe rape myths as perpetuated in porn.
  • 75 percent of women who leave abusive relationships admit that they were forced to re-enact porn scenes or view them.
  • 64 percent of these women had scenes described to them and were asked to attempt the acts.

Porn Can Ruin Relationships in Many Ways

how-porn-destroys-relationships-and-intimacy-4Healthy and romantic relationships depend of intellectual, emotional and physical intimacy, but porn only concentrates on the physical aspects of relationships in ways that are unrealistic. Watching porn most often encourages violent behavior towards women because that’s what happens in 88 percent of porn, and 73 percent of men are likely to view porn while only 32 percent of women are likely to watch pornography regularly. [3] Porn addicts often begin to search for other partners to fulfill their sexual fantasies when their regular partners don’t measure up to the latest porn session even though it’s a futile effort.

References:
[1] Marri.us: The Effects of Pornography on Individuals, Marriage, Family and Community
www.marri.us/get.cfm?i=RS09K0

[2] Aurora.umn.edu: Research on Poronography
aurora.umn.edu/pdf/ResearchOnPornography.pdf

[3] Relevantmagazine.com: 5 Ways Porn Ruins Relationships
www.relevantmagazine.com/life/relationships/5-ways-porn-ruins-relationships