We’ve probably all heard the saying “time heals all wounds” at one point or another. That isn’t always true, and you can’t put your faith in time alone. The healing process is a difficult journey, and simply expecting things to improve with time isn’t realistic.
Part of healing is understanding the process and taking the right approach to it. This is true whether the issue affects your mind or your body. If you break a bone or suffer a serious cut, you wouldn’t simply let it be and trust that time will heal you. Your wound would heal much better if you followed the right treatment plan.
The healing process for an emotional wound is a huge challenge. Here’s what you need to know to have an easier time moving through it.
There’s No Set Timeframe for Healing
Understand that while the healing process takes time, there’s no way to know how much time it’s going to take, and that’s fine. Don’t allow yourself to become frustrated because you feel that you’re not progressing quickly enough. This is one area where having people who support you in your healing can come in handy.
Focus on being at peace regarding where you are in your recovery. Be proud of the progress you’ve made, without feeling down about how far you have to go.
Remember that the healing process isn’t a straight line from point A to point B. It will have its peaks and valleys. You may feel you’ve been making great progress, only to feel down in the dumps a day later. This is normal, so even when you get down, know that you won’t feel that way forever.
Triggers Can Keep Coming Back
Everyone has their triggers, and the reality is that you can’t completely rid yourself of these triggers. They’re going to happen. You may not be able to control your triggers, but you can control how you respond to them, ensuring that they don’t throw your healing off course.
When you have a trigger, accept it and then let it go. Let the feelings it causes pass, and then go on with your day. This will be challenging at first, but as you repeat this process, you’ll become much better at it. You’ll reach the point where triggers that once brought you down for a long time have much less of an effect.
Find the Healing Method That Works for You
There are many different ways people can heal their emotion wounds, and no single way is right for everyone or the best option. The key is finding the method that works best for you, and to do that, you need to try them out. Don’t let your preconceived notions stop you from giving something new a try, as you could find that it works much better than you anticipated.
You may find that a mindfulness program that involves daily meditation is just what you need to stay grounded and relieve the stress of your healing. Or maybe talking to a counselor is what you need, so you can have someone impartial listen to you and offer advice. Keep trying out different healing methods until you find the right fit. You’ll know when you’ve found it.
Work on Your Other Relationship Issues
It can be easy to focus all your energy on the most significant issue in your relationship and put the other issues aside, but that’s a mistake. Or, you may find yourself avoiding conversations about other issues out of guilt or just because you’d rather not deal with them.
It’s rarely easy to talk about relationship issues, but part of the problem may be the way you and your partner communicate. You two could be taking an overly negative approach, or going to the opposite end of the spectrum and sweeping issues under the rug to try and “keep the peace.”
The best way to handle relationship issues is to consider yourselves on the same team. Don’t look at conflicts as a bad thing, look at them as something the two of you can work through. This doesn’t mean that you’ll never have another argument, but when you both have a loving attitude with each other, you’ll find issues are much easier to resolve.
Going through the healing process can be hard, especially in those low moments and when you’re dealing with triggers. Just know that what you’re going through is making you stronger, and things can always get better. Keep communication with your partner strong, even regarding relationship issues, and find the healing method that feels right for you.